Break the cycle: Relationship intensive

A structured programme for people stuck in the conflict–withdrawal loop

If you keep having the same argument with different words, or you shut down, go numb, avoid, or explode under pressure, this is designed for you.

Break the Cycle: Relationship Intensive is a 12-week, application-only programme for people who want a time-limited, structured push to change how they show up in relationships.

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This isn’t motivational advice or endless talking. It’s a clear plan, weekly experiments, and a support layer around the sessions, so the work actually transfers into real life.

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Who it’s for

This programme is for you if:

• conflict escalates fast or drags on for days

• you withdraw, go quiet, or disappear into work/phone/porn

• you people-please and then resent it

• you feel criticised easily and get defensive or sharp

• intimacy and desire have dropped, or connection feels strained

• you want to lead yourself better at home, not just “understand why”

Who it’s not for

Not a fit if:

• you want quick hacks without doing emotional work

• you’re in acute crisis that needs urgent support

• there is ongoing coercive control or violence in the relationship

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What changes by the end

By week 12, you’ll typically have:

• a clear map of your specific relationship loop (what triggers you + what you do next)

• the ability to interrupt shutdown/anger/appeasing in real time

• repair skills that rebuild trust (not just “talking about it”)

• cleaner boundaries and direct requests (less resentment)

• a maintenance plan so you don’t relapse under stress

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How the programme works

This is a time-bound change project, not open-ended therapy.

We start with a 90-minute Deep Dive to map the loop, agree goals, and identify a few indicators to track. From there, each week follows a consistent structure:

• a brief scoreboard check-in

• a loop audit (where it showed up this week)

• one core focus for the session

• one practical “experiment” to run before next week

You also get bounded support between sessions to keep momentum and help you apply the work when the loop is happening.

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What’s included

• Week 1: 90-minute Deep Dive (assessment + plan)

• Weeks 2–11: 10 × 50-minute weekly sessions

• Week 12: consolidation + relapse plan

• Midweek check-in support (Mon–Fri, reply within 48 hours)

• 1-page formulation + plan (Week 1)

• Midpoint review (Week 6)

• Weekly prompts/experiments (minimal, high-yield)

• Optional 45-minute partner alignment session (agreements + repair language)

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12 weeks | £1800 | limited places
Payments can be spread into two or three payments if needed. 

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FAQ:

“What’s the difference between this and regular therapy with you?”

Regular therapy is an open-ended weekly process, important work, but the structure and tracking are looser.

The programme is a 12-week change project:

• a 90-minute Deep Dive at the start

• a written formulation and plan

• weekly sessions with consistent workflow

• tracked indicators

• a specific experiment each week

• bounded support between sessions

Same quality of work—different container. If you want open-ended therapy, we do regular sessions. If you want a structured push with accountability and support, this is for that.